Inspiring Story on a Baby Girl - Destiny Zoe Oh

Today, while enjoying the last few days of my 1-week leave at hometown, a short story shown on TV caught my attention and put me into tears within seconds.

It is the life of a baby named Destiny Zoe Oh. The best luck she had was to live for 3 days in her life. She was one of the Edwards Syndrome babies. Due to the incompleteness of her body, every breath she took was very difficult for a tiny baby girl. Seeing the sufferings a baby girl has to bear to catch her breath, her parents told her, "if you would like to live, you have to try harder, however, if it is too painful to bear, it is alright to give up. We still love you no matter what. And, we are blessed to be able to see you." Finally, on the third day of her life, she has left our world forever. She never gets to experience the life we are living now. The only familiar environment she recognized was her mother's womb and ICU. The suffering she beared is beyond what we could imagine.

Photo taken from https://www.facebook.com/DestinyOh

Life is short and full with suffering. However, we have given a healthy body and mind to live through so many years. Despite of the unbearable pain and discomfort, the sick baby girl chose to live her life to the very last second, what rights are there can we healthy adult complain about life? We are much more lucky. We should appreciate the blessings we have to be alive for so many days, weeks, months and years. At least, we get to feel the world, understand the people around us, communicate with other living creatures and explore the advancement of technology. Therefore, stay strong despite of the hardships that strike you and emotions that try to take control of you. We should try our best to live but, never to focus highly on the result of our effort. Happiness and health are the two important elements that I personally highly think of and emphasize in my current stage of my life.

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1、不怕嫁老，就怕嫁小。
如果你的男友只有二十几岁或十几岁，你可以失身，但不能嫁。男人三十三岁左右是个不错的年纪。

2、嫁有钱的还是没钱的？
嫁愿意为你花钱的！

3、离婚的男人嫁不嫁？
离一次婚的男人是块宝，离两次婚的男人是根草。

4、嫁事业型的还是家庭型的？
笼统而言：家庭型的。　

5、嫁什么性格的人？
嫁人嫁的是性格，其他的一切都会离你远去，相似的性格好过互补的性格。

6、嫁人要不要占星问卜？
要最好找人问一下掌相、面相和八字。如果你做不到，那至少应该深入了解他的血型和星座。有人管这叫"迷信"，但"迷信"这东西很神奇。

7、什么样的男人是大忌？什么样的男人是大善？
自私的男人是大忌，有责任感的男人是大善。　

8、北方的男人好还是南方的男人好？
北方的嫁北方的，南方的嫁南方的。.　　

9、花心的男人嫁不嫁？
男人是多偶制动物，没有不“花心”的男人，但有“有自制力”的男人。　　

10、嫁个有学问的还是没有什么学问的？
嫁要嫁个和自己差不多的，不能嫁一个你大学，他小学的，要这样的话，以后都没有什么共同语言。不是看不起那些学历低的人，但是有的时候他们的思维方式就是个你不一样，很多话理解也和你相差甚远。你解释也没有用，他还是用他的思维方式和你说话，永远上不了该上的台阶。

一个聪明女人的嫁人经验 　　

　　1.女生还是要努力让自己出色些，从能力到容貌。 　

　　2.好男人，对自己有要求，对女人没要求。 　　

　　3.嫁人最主要看人品，性格。 　　

　　4.一开始就说配不上你的男人，以后他永远都会配不上你。　

　　5.托付终身前，要看一看他的家人。
　　不是看他家有多少钱，是看他家家人是不是家庭和睦，关心礼让。一个家人中有男人打女人，大家还不闻不问，装作没看见的家庭，以后也不会管你的死活的。每个家庭都有缺点，要问清自己男友的态度，一味愚忠的男人，心里对妻子的尊重是有限的
　
　　6.对自己手紧，对女友也手紧的男人没有情趣。金钱是最能看出一个男人本质和感情的东西。姐妹们谈恋爱不是谈钱，但如果他在钱上让你感觉不对，就该好好想想他是不是合适你了。太精于算计，也太怕吃亏的男人是最没有责任感的。　　

　　7.打人的男人不能要，被打一次一定要分　　手。花心的，脚踩几条船的男人不能要，发现一次一定要分手。老话说了，当断不断，反受其乱。　　

　　8.恋爱中女生要有自己的底线。 　　决不能因为爱他，就放弃自己的尊严，侮辱自己的父母，抛弃自己的工作。好的感情，婚姻一定是双赢，而不是单方面的牺牲和成全。

　　9。遇到自己喜欢的男人，一定要勇敢去追。单恋是最伤人的，也是最没有结果的。

　　10。有话明说。　有什么想法，说出来，不要让男人去猜，能沟通，你的生活会更快乐。不能沟通，说明你们的幸福还没有保证。

　　11.不要一开始就在男人面前做贤惠状。　如果他对你的付出心安理得，却不懂回报，他有大男子主义的嫌疑。如果你时间长了，心里放松了，做得没有以前好，他会很受伤，会觉得你骗了他或是你不爱他了。不如一开始，就有分寸的表达爱意，给他表现的机会，让他为你做些事情。在婚姻中，常干家务活，常照顾孩子的男人放弃婚姻的可能性要低得多，也正是因为这个家是他辛苦造就的，他更舍不得放弃。　很多花心狠心的男人都有一个最贤惠，无私的女人在默默付出。我最终下决心嫁给自己的男友，是因为他和我说：我非常操心你，，我总怕你过得不好，或是遇上什么事，只要一不看见你，我就非常担心你。他的付出和我的感激是我们俩最好的相处模式。

　　12.当断则断。 　
　人人都有犯错的可能，但如果一错再错，就是自己有问题。好多姐妹因为“和他在一起N年了”，“他是我第一个男人”，“我为他流过N个孩子了”，“我为了付出了……”“我已经……岁了”而忍受和一个不善待自己的男人生活在一起，最后受伤的还是自己。我的一个朋友和我说过：这个世界上的事，没有一成不变的，它要么变好，要么变坏，总之，没有不变的。这句话直接促使我走出了一段不好的感情。因为，我知道，如果要变，那段感情只会变得更差，以后我受得伤会更多。我的勇敢是我现在过得不错最坚实的基础。　　

　　13.因为爱而爱，不是为了一场漂亮的婚礼或是梦想中奢华的生活而爱。

　　14.要珍惜真正爱你且对你好的男人，好的男人会以真正对你有益的方式对你好，不是纵容你，也不是以爱你的名义束缚你。这样的男人很少，如果遇到了，一定要珍惜。年轻的男人往往会以纯真的方式爱自己的女友，他可能不成熟，但他的爱是真的，不要轻意放弃。以后在社会上历练多了，你才会知道一颗真心有多宝贵。　

　　15.一切都来得及。　

　这个世上有很多好男人正是苦苦寻找另一半。不是所有的男人都只爱处女，也不是所有的男人都会在乎你以前的婚姻，更不是所有的男人都在意你的年龄学历。有很多好的婚姻中，男人爱的，是自己女人的笨，天真及及圆圆的身材，或是嘴角的那颗痣。你受过的伤，他会加倍疼惜，你的勇敢，会让他更加尊重。所以，即使受了伤，也要像金三顺一样，勇敢去爱，就像没有受过伤一样。你只有首先放开了自己，这个世界才会放开你。　　

　　16.不要为男人一开始的追求就付出自己的心。

　好男人和坏男人在追求你之初，都会关心你，接你送你，给你发短信，在你生病时照顾你。不要一有人对你好，你就马上陷进去，想一想，多看一看，再做决定。一般，四个月，足够的接触，足以让你了解他。网上的交往不算的，再长时间的网络接触也不算的，真实的生活才有意义。你要和他一起吃饭，逛街，一起做些事，才能了解他。你过得快不快乐，你自己知道。很多时候，不是男人在欺骗我们，是我们自己在骗自己。　
　　17.如果爱他，接受他的现在，别幻想他的改变。 　　

如果他能改，当然最好，不然，就想一想，你能不能接受。婚前的每一个缺点，婚后都会被放大。他抽烟，而你又爱他，就努力接受吧，婚后戒烟的男人太少了。其他缺点也是一样。

一位心理医生给女人的忠告：

1.永远不要以为同龄的男女会恩爱白头到老.女人切不可找小男人.是故圣人孔子曾有男三十.女二十可以成婚之说。

　　2.永远要记住经济基础是第一位.中医讲心主火.肺主金.以男子论.心爱谁.钱给谁.不给钱.没真心.空口说.瞎骗人.玩浪漫.哄傻子.　
　　3.选择了都不要去后悔！

　　4.永远不要听信任何己婚男人述说的爱情悲剧.孩子都生出来了.还谈没有爱情.可笑.婚姻家庭在没有孩子时是爱情.有了孩子就是责任.不负责任的人不配谈爱情.　

　　5.永远不要和穷小子谈爱情.穷小子不要淡爱情.要先去奋斗.当一个好女人爱上一个穷小子.并帮助他努力上进的时候.这个女人不要指望会得到任向回报.穷小子成功的时候第一个背叛的就是实心实意帮助他的爱人.这己经有无数实例了.　　 　

　　6.对于公子哥.要慎重..对地痞.无赖要远离.不要惧怕恐吓.暴力.　　

　　7.门当户对最好.要看对方的父母家庭.人性是有遗传的.父母不合的孩子.也难以处理好家庭关系。

　　8.女孩子不要相信这个世界上有老实本分的男人.只有暂时没有机会做恶的坏人.　　 　　

　爱情不是游戏，谁都玩不起！

　　一、如果你心里有别人了，告诉我，我退出。
　　二、如果你对别人有感觉，那你去追求吧，我不阻拦。 　
　　三、如果你一个都不想爱了，我可以放弃。 　
　　四、如果你心里还有我，就请忘了别人，对我好一点。 　
　　五、如果你觉得对不起我而去放弃爱别人，这样的同情我不要。 　
　　六、如果你心里不止有我一个，那你自己决定扼杀哪个，我尊重你的决定。
　　七、如果你说不清楚，只能说明你动摇了。 　　
　　八、如果你说不知道，只能说明你在逃避。
　　九、如果你还不曾想组建家庭，与我真心相印，那要么你滚，要么我滚。
　　十、如果你现在不想谈，而却爱着我，我等你。

这篇几乎说出了每个女生的愿望

叫了女生老婆，你就要给她幸福..
如果爱，请深爱..
若不爱请放手..
想告诉你们一件事，如果你在爱一个女生时..
没有想过要和她永远在一起
没有想过带她去见你的父母
没有想过以后可以有一天为她戴
上结婚戒指
那么请你放过她
因为这不是爱
只是喜欢
这就意味着你们还是学生..
如果仅仅是喜欢的话
就请不要伤害那些女生们
不要牵她们的手更不要吻她们
不要给她们的心灵带来阴影
不要随随便便就叫她们老婆
直到有一天你能望着她的眼睛说
我爱你
我想让你去见我的父母时
这比你说一万次
我喜欢你
我爱你 要有用的多
因为那些女孩想要得只是一个最
温暖的避风港
不要在你不爱她时去碰她
不要在你没有带她去见过你家长
时叫她老婆
如果你们确立了恋爱关系
请一定要对她说：
“我爱你”
当一个女生叫你老公时..
她是真的爱上你了..
当她叫你老公时..
就意味着她把她的一切交给你了..
当她叫你老公时..
就是在说你就是她一生的托付..
当她叫你老公时..
她已经把你当成她以后的避风港
了..
所以.. 男生..
如果有个女孩叫你老公时
请记得好好对她！
因为
她真的爱你了
想和你相守一生..
女孩叫你老公时..
你应该给她一个大大的拥抱
然后对她说：
我会照顾你一辈子
我会一辈子做你的守护神..
一辈子做爱你的天使..

A Little Thing that Brought Me to a Great Realization

He is the guy that,
when I am scared, he will be by my side
when I need him, he will try his best to be there;
even when he's really tired or when he's sleeping,
he would wake up, get out from the bed and guide me through the dark at night just because I told him that I was scared to go there alone.
This, makes him "the" guy.
People might think that a guy waking up in the middle of the night and accompany a girl to the kitchen isn't that great of a deal.
But to me, other than my dad, he is the second man who would do that for me.

我还是长不大

不晓得是什么原因。我总是那么的幼稚。
难道是我不想长大吗？心里真的存有这个想法很多遍了。但，残酷的现实总有办法将我拉回现实世界。

20岁那年的农历新年，差不多全家都跟我说了同样的一句话：“婉艳，你都要20岁了，不要再这么幼稚了，应该成熟一些。要有20岁人的样子。”
爸爸说过了，妈妈也说了，甚至连姐姐也重复了很多遍。。。。。。
那时，我觉得真的很烦。虽然我知道他们都是为我好，他们说的都是有道理的，但是，我幼稚的心一直拼命地抵抗这个现实。

到了独自飞到美国修学的日子了 --- 又是一个对我来说可怕的现实。
自以为很坚强地飞来美国。很自以为事地尽量适应美国的生活。什么问题都往自己身上扛，因为我知道，除了我自己，是没有人可以帮我扛的，虽然我经常都在想着逃避的选择。做事很小心翼翼。非常害怕会得罪人，尤其是我天身就神经大条。我不会在意或我能接受的事情，可能大多数人都不能接受。也可能是这样，所以我还蛮容易得罪人的。幸好，上天对我不薄。送了三位了解我本性和为人的好朋友。其实，我不算很贪心吧。我觉得有三位已经很高兴及满足了。可惜，远水不能救近火。但，偶尔有他们陪我聊天，我已觉得欣慰。

经历了一个孤独的学期，我以为我终于长大了、成长了、成熟了。可是，今天发现我还是幼稚的。我，就像个小孩子一样，将当天做了的好事通通一字不漏地仔细告诉他。就像个长不大的孩子，将当天抄好的笔记或做好的功课或考得好的成绩单呈现给他看，希望获取赞赏及鼓励的话或礼物。

原来，我就是那么的幼稚、那么的长不大、那么的小孩子、那么的白痴。。。果然是神经大条，不懂得怎么做人。

我本身的存在就是一个问题？一个累赘？一个包袱？

可能吧。

看来这期间，我太看得起自己了。=D

Great Efforts Do Pay Off

Since the day I came to U.S., I have not updated anything here.
Feel sorry for those who have visited my blog for updates, especially my best friends.

This would be the first post written in U.S.

Around 4.45 am [ya, I know it's really late now. Daddy, don't scold me... IT'S HOLIDAY! just a few days. XD]
I began checking my FB and my email for updates after watching the whole tvb drama - 谈情说案. Had been wanted to watch it but I didn't have time for the whole drama. [I know I'll keep on watching until I have finished it, just like yesterday and today.]

But this is not the point.

It's about the great news I have found out after checking my email and blackboard!

Finally, after sending an email to my English professor, Joseph Scott, to ask him about my final grade, he replied me on the 18th morning!!! [but I didn't check till then.] He told me I got an A for the course! 930/1000
IT IS SO UNBELIEVABLE!!!
I thought I was going to get only an A- for it. All my efforts paid off!

Then, I quickly checked my blackboard to see if grades for other courses were out, and they are!!!

I have to thank my U.S. History TA, Darin Tuck, for giving me 96 for my finals. I would never expect such score for this course. It is so surprising! Because, without a complete study guide like the midterm before, I thought I was going to screw up the final, especially having 2 finals with only half an hour difference in between. [1-3pm: US History ; 3.30pm-5.30pm: Stat] I studied madly in my room. Kept memorizing the facts repeatedly. It was even the first thing that came to my mind when I woke up from my sleep the day before the two finals. Ah~ thank god... my efforts... they gave me the perfect reward. A minus is considered good enough. I feel really grateful.

Stat result has not yet updated. I guess it'll  be out by this coming Monday. Hope I did well. Stat final was a very risky exam. If there's a part of a question wrong, the answer for others would be wrong too. If so, it would be a disaster.  =(

As for Art Appreciation, final score is out but, she is still considering to curve the exam. Hopefully, I can get an A even though I did badly in final. got 12 questions, which is very unexpected cuz I studied very hard for it too. I can even remember what I've studied for the final. Because of the extra credits I got and the participation points she gave me, I think I have a high chance of getting an A. HOPEFULLY. pobi pobi...上天保佑。

It's the first time since college that I don't have to cry over my results for every semester. I don't have to feel so bad or depressed. It's the first time that I really work hard for those courses. erm...haiz, but I still have to admit that I did play a lot too. Like FB games, skype, chatting, online shopping, watching drama and series episodes thro PPS etc... No matter what, I feel like a crazy girl right now, for smiling involuntary, but having the feeling to cry too. I don't know why. It's a new feeling to me.

Anyway, I have to thank all my professors, instructors and friends who have helped me in this semester. I feel lucky to have known you, to have encountered such nice people.

Not to forget my mom, who has prayed for me. I was too nervous about the finals that I lost my confidence. Therefore, I asked my mom to pray for me, 拜神. She told me not to just rely on God. I should decide my destiny with my own effort. God can't help much without me working hard for my goals. Thanks for encouraging me, Mi~ I love you! I told you that I did study. Do you believe in me now? Since little, you have always scolded me for being a lazy pig. Always play and watch TV. You said you have never seen me studying before. Ya, you were right. I seldom studied in those years when I was in secondary school or primary school. I screwed up my first semester in INTI for playing too much like I used to before that. And I'll always remember the message papa sent me, "don't dig your own grave". Sorry for having both of you to worry about my results and health. I hope this great news will cheer you up, just like the night when you hugged me after we found out that I've gotten the scholarship. I know that this is just the beginning. I hope I won't let you down for the coming semester. I am  very sure that it's full of new challenges, maybe they are even tougher. But I have learned that "everyone's life is full with challenges. they seem very hard at first, but when we look back after solving them, they seem so easy".

Life with no challenges is not life.

I WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER TONIGHT

What a nice family I have.
And how nice my family has treated me, especially my dad and my elder sister.

Thank you for the help.

To wake me up to see the reality.

This help is really growing me up.

To understand the wonderful family I have.

Since Form 2, I have learned a good moral lesson - to thank people.

But I never thought that I will get to apply it to my family.

I thought I will going to apply to outsiders only.

Thank you guys, now I know.

And forever, I will remember.